Today, I want to share with you something God revealed to me specifically for the married while I was studying the book of Esther. Now, stay with me if you are not married…yet! Yes, some of you will certainly be married, and this wisdom will be such a blessing for you and your spouse. Also, you never know if the Lord is equipping you with today’s wisdom and revelation for a married couple who desperately needs God’s help. The book of Esther is rich with revelation from God about our Lord Jesus, His ways and His will. Today, however, we will focus on something the Lord showed me specifically about the people that He joins together, by looking at the book of Esther.
Esther and the king’s marriage had a much greater purpose than two people who just loved one other. That’s the truth about God’s marriages (i.e., those men and women who He joins together). Married people, you need to remember this when tempted to walk away…God has a purpose for your marriage beyond yourself, your emotions, and even your rights. I say this because you may be right regarding a problem that arose in your marriage, but please keep in mind that when your marriage serves a greater purpose—one beyond yourself—others can be gravely affected by your decision to exercise “your right.” Let us always remember, being right isn’t enough. We have to remain unselfish. Love doesn’t seek its own, even when it is right. (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). We know this is true by looking at Jesus. Jesus is God, and God is love(John 14:9 & 1 John 4:8). Jesus did no sin, knew no sin, and in Him was no sin, but the sin of the entire world came upon Him at the cross for a greater purpose, and Jesus allowed it to be so that through His sacrifice, this entire world can be saved forever (John 3:16-17). Jesus gave up His right to be right, and chose love and humility instead. I say humility, because although Jesus had not committed the crimes He was falsely accused of, and certainly was not subject to the death penalty, He—being God—subjected Himself to the governing authorities of man, in order to do the will of God. The Bible says, “He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death” (Philippians 2:18). Sometimes in a marriage the only thing that needs to be done in order to be humble is to close one’s mouth, even if you are right. By the grace of God, this can be done. The Bible says, “we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us” (Philippians 4:13).
Now, keep in mind that Jesus gave up His right to be right because of love. And Jesus, who certainly knows how to defend, as seen throughout the entire Bible, refused to defend Himself when His life was on the line. Instead, He remained silent, renouncing all rights He had as God, and as an innocent Man, so that we, who caused His death, would be completely forgiven and made righteous by God forever. This is LOVE! Love is completely unselfish; it truly does not seek its own. Again, being right isn’t what matters; love does. I’m not saying that this is so easy to do all the time, especially with the flesh, but it is necessary in marriage.
Also, when you have a God-ordained marriage, your marriage is a ministry…and the world benefits from it. It is in all of our interest that your marriage remains together and strong…and it is to our detriment if it doesn’t. Please remember God, and us, whenever a trial comes, because your marriage isn’t just about you and your spouse. Also, keep in mind that whatever problem has arisen, it is passing. It is not in your marriage and life to stay. Just know; this too shall pass. But the God-ordained purpose for which your marriage serves is eternal and will have eternal consequences for the glory of God and the good of multitudes of God’s people.
Also, please keep this in mind: God said, “For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required; and to whom much has been committed, of him they will ask the more” (Luke 12:48). Your marriage has a divine purpose and that means much has been given you. Humbling ourselves and walking in love is the much that is required from God. And, for those facing a storm right now, do not think, and definitely don’t believe and confess, that “I cannot take or make it,” because those are lies! God has promised, and He cannot lie, that “My grace is sufficient for you” (2 Corinthians 12:9). You can make it! And don’t be discouraged if your spouse isn’t praying with you for your marriage. You and God are a majority! Esther’s husband never prayed with her during the storm she faced in her marriage…and in her life for that matter! Instead, he was completely oblivious that his marriage was about to end, and that his own wife was about to be killed. Thankfully, Esther had a relationship with God, and so she cried out to God, without her husband even being aware of her prayer, let alone participating in it; and indeed that was more than enough! It saved her, her people, and her marriage. God is not a respecter of persons; if He did it for Esther (and we know He did), He will do it for you…and He will fulfill His divine purpose for your marriage!
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